What does it mean?
I’m always struck by how much meaning we attach to conversations we have with those around us. I’ve done it myself, a loved one had said something completely innocuous, however I have taken it as a criticism or viewed it in a negative way, which then led to a confrontation or passive negativity. Often we are not cognizant of the fact that we are attaching our own views to what people are saying, effectively filtering what we hear and how we hear it.
‘Non-violent Communication’ by Marshall Rosenberg provides useful tools to unravel the way we hear, what it is that people are telling us and in fact disentangle that, from what it is they actually need. Thus, you are able to truly hear what is being said.
Communication is critical, to every aspect of our lives, so it’s critical that we can, not only communicate effectively but in a way that is non-violent and compassionate.
I have learnt a lot since joining MYH, however communicating in a way that is compassionate, and listening without judgement, are two essential life skills that I have had the opportunity to hone and continuously strive to embody. I am sure these will stay with me for the rest of my life and enable me to meaningfully connect with others.
Akeela Ahmed MBE 